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Author | Speaker | Self-Care Muse | Mentor

About Vickie

For more than 35 years, I’ve studied self-care, wellness, movement, breathwork, and the ways the body responds to stress, trauma, loss, and change. 

At the time, I didn’t know the things I felt drawn toward would become what sustained me through some of the hardest experiences of my life.

I have walked through profound loss more than once in my life: the loss of a full-term stillborn daughter in 1980, my son Wesley in 2017, my father in 2018, and then the unimaginable loss of two more children just twelve days apart in 2023. Each loss met a different version of me. Different levels of awareness. Different emotional capacity. Different understanding of grief, trauma, and healing.   What I didn’t expect was that every major loss would also bring old pain to the surface. Childhood wounds, years of silence around trauma, and patterns I hadn’t realized were still shaping me began asking for attention.   I came to understand something I speak about often now:
  • Present pain has a way of introducing us to older pain that has been waiting to be acknowledged.
  • Not to punish us. To ask for our attention.
  • The tools I once studied became the things I returned to when breathing felt difficult.
  • When my nervous system no longer felt safe.
  • When life changed in ways I could never undo.
I earned certifications, deepened my studies, and continued learning while grieving, because life wasn’t waiting for me to catch up. Every practice I share has been tested against real life. Not in theory. In loss. Over time, I stopped seeing healing as something to achieve. I began seeing it as a relationship. With the body. With grief. With old stories. With the version of ourselves life may be asking us to become. Today my work brings together breathwork, nervous system regulation, intentional practices, reflection, and sacred spaces that support people through profound transitions. This became the foundation for Learning to Live Again, Flow by Design, The Art of Living Beautifully, The Holistic Life Review™, and The Chrysalis Library, spaces created for those standing between what happened and what comes next. I do not believe healing means returning to who you once were. Sometimes it means meeting yourself for the first time. That space in-between… is often where my work begins. Where you begin, matters less than beginning.
Explore Your Path

Maybe you’re here because loss cracked you open and you don’t recognize yourself anymore. Or because something shifted and the life you built no longer feels like yours. Maybe old pain surfaced and you finally understand it’s been running things all along.

You might not know exactly what you need yet. That’s okay. Clarity often comes after we start, not before.

What I know is this: your body still holds wisdom even when your mind feels scattered. Your nervous system can remember what safety feels like. And the space between who you were and who you’re becoming isn’t empty, it’s full of possibility.

And I know how to hold space for that.”

Mission

Blu-el-lah exists to offer a different way of experiencing life.
Through intentional self-care, nervous system awareness, body-based practices, reflection, and meaningful experiences, we invite people to understand themselves more deeply, listen to the wisdom of the body, and discover practices that support the way they want to live. Not by striving toward some final version of themselves, but by learning to meet life as it unfolds with greater presence, intention, resilience, and grace.
At the heart of it all is a simple belief: life isn't asking us to arrive. It's inviting us to participate.

Vision

My vision is a world where self-care is understood not as something we occasionally do, but as a way of living.
A world where people understand the language of their bodies, become more intentional about the environments they create, and have practices they can return to as life continues to unfold. I believe that when we learn to meet ourselves and our lives with greater awareness, compassion, and intention, the ripple extends beyond us into our homes, our relationships, our workplaces, and our communities.
Living beautifully begins within, but it doesn't end there.

Experiences

There is no single way to experience the Blu-el-lah Way.
You may begin with a complimentary invitation, step into a guided experience, a workshop, explore private work, gather in community, or create something deeply personal through a private retreat or mentorship. Each experience offers a different doorway, with one intention at its heart:
To give you practices, perspectives, and experiences that can become part of the way you live. Explore what is calling you next.

Meet The Kids

My Biggest Inspirations

My children are the heart of everything I do. Their lives and the love we shared have been my greatest teachers, guiding me through the darkest times and inspiring me to embrace healing and hope. Each step I take in this journey is dedicated to honoring their memory and creating a space where others, too, can find peace, strength, and renewal. Their presence continues to light my path, and through them, I am reminded every day that healing is possible, even beyond the deepest loss.

Jesse

Jesse was a chef and a designer of many things. He loved to make everything beautiful and pleasing to the eye. His vision has been left with me now. I feel him urging me toward our goals in the most loving way.

Crystal

Crystal loved her family and her pets. She had plans for her life but now works on a cosmic level. Her presence with her boys and partner has given them the message that all is well with her and she is there to watch over them and me. It’s just beautiful.

Wesley

Wesley was an amazing artist that never knew his worth. But he was worthy enough to be called home. I look at all things as his art in real form. He is up there with his paintbrush painting the skies, the flowers, and everything that is beautiful just for me.
Mystic Living Today Article

The Story of The Rainbow

This was one of the many times that I felt their presence. They were saying “Hello MOM, we are here with you.”

Wesley’s Gift

Finding Wesley’s piece of art after he passed felt like discovering a love letter written with colors and brushstrokes instead

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